Some things have changed... some things stay the same

Sori... been away for almost a month. 

i've been busy... but (yes, i know) that's no excuse. 

thing is, some not so nice stuff had happened to a few of my friends and they made me ponder stuff a bit.

so, things that happened over the last one month (in brief, of course): 

- one dumped her fiance not long before the wedding;

- one walked out of her husband (for being abusive) ; and

- one dumped her girlfriend for being too possessive.

initially, the bombardment of questions and cold stares they got...

... it was hell.

"how come like that?"

"can things work out somehow?"

"how to tell parents?"

"how to tell friends?"

"how to tell relatives?"

"can it be that bad?" 

but you know something? 

"so what."

no one wakes up one day and decide, "let's go screw someone's life."

but shit happens.

if someone's not treating you well? walk. so what.

if someone's abusive? walk. so what.

life's still fully of nice stuff.

i still have friends who decide to getting hitched;

i still have friends who decide that the world is decent enough to have kids;

.

.

.

as for me,

i still have hope that worth hoping for.

i still have affections that's worth lusting for.

Neil Gaiman once wrote in Sandman, "What power would Hell have, if those here imprisoned are not able to dream of heaven?"

see, hope can deepen the pain, but it can also brings optimism.

it all depends on how one sees and uses it.

it's the mentality that counts.

and if that's the case, then perhaps nothing is ever that bad afterall. 

now that's a thought.